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http://www.cnn.com/video/player/player.html?url=/video/education/2007/03/08/chapman.in.6th.grade.sex.wthr


I think kid's nowadays have a really twisted view of what sex is. Sex is a game. A recreational activity. Like video games, or baseball. And why not? It's fun, it feels good, and if your good at it, and do it a lot, other kid's think your cool. Sex is everywhere in pop culture. It is marketed to all age groups. If your not aware of this then u must never watch tv, read magazines, drive through cities, or listen to the radio or to music.

The sad truth these days is that most boys would rather grow up to be like hugh hefner or 50 cent than Dr. King or Jesus. Theyre more concerned with social status of being a pimp then with the reality of trying to build an actual relationship with a woman whom you respect and care for.

It's similar for young girls too. You watch shows like the OC, or Laguna Beach, and they see these really hot chicks, that all these guys are drooling over getting fucked all over the place and engaging in all kinds of rediculous sexual escapades. It gives young girls the impression that this is the ideal. That to be worth something, they have to be the hotcheck that everyone wants to get with. They want to grow up to be like the women on desperate housewives, (unfaithful, sex crazed, and sometimes murderous women) as opposed to women like rosa parks. It seems like a lot of young girls get the impression that in order to be respected by men, they need to engage in high amounts of sexual activity. That to be loved, they have to have sex. Ironicaly this usualy has the opposite effect. Being a guy I'm well aware of the fact that most of these chicks tend to be the least respected ones.

The bottom line is that this is what kids live for now adays. They wanna live like their role models. They wanna go out and get fucked up and get laid. It's cool, it's fun, it's what the popular kids do. Im aware this has been going on practicaly since teenagers were invented, but as you can see in this video, the kid's are just getting younger and younger. These are preteens now. 10, 11, 12 year olds.

So what do we do? I can't say I know for sure but heres my suggestion. While it's fun to blame the media, and while they do shoulder some of the blame, if we are going to make a change it will have to start at home. It has been made painfully obvious that parents cannot count on their being roll models outside the house, so parents have to step up and take that role. When theyre kids are confronted by the images and stereo types we are bombarded by, it is the responisbility of the parents to explain the truth about sex and dispell the myths. That it's not a game, or a toy, or trophy. It is loving a connection, between to people that is not to be taken lightly. Parents have to teach their kids to be responsible about sex. Lord knows we can't count on snoop dogg to do it. Boys have to be taught to respect women and not treat them like objects. For boys, sex is about status. The more sex you have, the better, and the sooner you have it, the further ahead of the curve you are. We have to teach boys that being a man is not about having sex. Just as importantly girls have to be taught to respect themselves, and not to treat themselves like objects. That having lots of sex is not equal to being loved, or to being a worthwhile person.

Bottom line: sex is not a game, sex is not a free ticket to adult hood, sex carries a lot of responsibility and requires a level of maturity.

A level of maturity that clearly no 6th grader has.

I think that being a real man, or a real woman, is something that is much more difficult to aquire than we tend to believe. Holding your liqour, getting laid a lot, and having a high bench press does not make you a man. Having lots expensive desighner clothes, great hair, and lots of boyfriends does not make you a woman. Having lots of money does NOT make you either a man or a woman. I think being an adult is about being responsibile. Being responsible for yourself and your community. Being able to take care of yourself and make intelligent desicions. However I think the biggest misconception of this idea is that being independant means never asking for help.Which is total crap. I think being independant is being smart enough, strong enough, and humble enough, to know when u need to ask for help to take care of yourself. And furthermore being able to accept that help. The bible says that the wise man will listen to and welcome the advice and criticism of his fellow man and consider it, while the fool will shut it out and ignore it. Finaly for all you who believe this is impossible I leave you with this:

"27 Jesus looking upon them saith, With men it is impossible, but not with God: for all things are possible with God."

Amen. Seek refuge and strength in the God, and channel it into your own life. For in God, all things are possible.